How to Succeed At Flirting

   There is literally no correct way to answer this. Everyone thinks they know the trick to flirting or the right way to get with someone. Each person is different at flirting and everyone responds to different types of flirting in their own way. You have the person that finds cheesy pickup lines adorable, but you also have the person that would love for you to buy them a drink. You spot someone across from a bar or a party or coffee shop or at a restaurant and you have to gauge how they are going to respond to you. You have to analyze in your head, is the immediate physical attraction going to be there, are they going to find what I have to say interesting or funny, how much are they overthinking this situation? The answer is, probably just as much as you.

   We would all love to not overthink the art of flirting or think we know all the answers but the truth is none of us do. When it comes down to it that friend you have that you're bitter at because they always seem to be successful at this is because they are attractive or have all the right things to say or landed the perfect joke. The whole thing is an art form that is designed to make us stay awake all night going crazy thinking about what we could have done differently to make that encounter go better. Do you need to change your cologne or perfume? Should you just redo your whole wardrobe? Do I need to change my haircut that I've had since the 7th grade? All these questions go through our mind. The answer could be all of them or none of them. Some people are generally not attracted to other people know matter how good they look or how funny they are. Granted we should all ship these people off to an island so they can disappoint each other and give the rest of us a fighting chance but it's not that easy.

   It's not like it gets much easier when the flirting is successful because that is when the real fun begins, but that is a whole other topic that we can save for another day. Just know that just because a certain technique or "move" you have used on someone and it worked certainly doesn't mean it's going to work on the next person you see.

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